Blogger sonofabeach96 posted My Nurture Trumps My Nature the other day, in which he talks a bit about his solitary nature and how that works with his married-with-kids life. He was inspired by blogger Kim who has started Who But You (the living alone project), a blog series about living alone.
I really enjoyed reading through these posts. There have only been two times in my life when I have lived alone, and I have loved it. The last time was for the year after my divorce. It was a very tough year in some ways: major home renovations, the emotional aftermath of divorce, my health taking a nosedive, and the coldest winter in over a century (with only me to walk the dogs and shovel the walks).
But in other ways it was delicious. I learned new skills (changing my own tires! fixing holes in the drywall! painting my own walls!). I arranged everything in the house exactly to my liking. I spent time—lots and lots of time—doing art. I put up a note: “Wordt verliefd op jezelf” (“fall in love with yourself”). I wrote in it (probably grammatically-suspect) Dutch so nobody visiting me would know what it said; it was my private reminder and goal.
After a year, my brother moved in and has been with me for a while. He’ll be leaving in the spring, though, and as much as I love and will miss him, I am looking forward to the spring, to living alone again, to having my home be my own private nest. Never mind that I’ll have all the lawnmowing and the cleaning of the eaves and the fixing of leaky faucets with the help of youtube videos; never mind that there’ll be a lack of rental income and no help with the batch cooking. It’ll be just me and the cats and dogs, my own little pack, and I will spread out again to fill the whole space just the way I like it.
I’ll be following the Who But You project with great interest. I’m not sure if there’s a deadline to participate. But maybe once I’ve been living alone for a while again, I’ll contact Kim about writing something for the project as well.
Here’s to living alone and loving it. I can’t wait!